looking for marriage

You know the old joke: Santa Claus, the perfect woman, the perfect man and the Tooth Fairy get into a car accident -- who survives? Answer: The perfect woman, because the other three don't exist. But is that really fair? Some of us have known men who are nearly perfect (or at least think they are). As member Beckie writes, "I think all women have a preconceived notion of who Mr. Right is. For me, it was the man I just married last April. This is my third marriage, but the one that will last a lifetime."

For others, Mr. Right is still missing in action. "At thirty-seven I still have not found what I'm looking for. Just finding the perfect date let alone perfect Mr. Right has gotten impossible," writes Mary.

Whether you've found your prince charming or are still searching for "the one," you know what it takes to make your mind, body and soul scream, "I'm in love!" In fact, you sent us long lists filled with qualities YOU need in a man to make your dreams come true. Here (in no particular order) are the top 15 qualities of Mr. iVillage!

Men, read carefully and don't forget to take notes!

   1. Honest: "If he says he'll call, be there or not date other women, he calls, is there and remains faithful." --Ashlee

   2. Supportive: "He's always pointing out the good things about me but he loves me for my faults too." --Julie

   3. Funny: "He MUST have a good sense of humor!" --jmcgrath

   4. Caring: "He must remember to kiss you throughout the day." --watsonmich

   5. Sensitive: "Sensitivity is key, but not to the point of being wimpy." --jmcgrath

   6. Loving: "He should be able to kiss away all his woman's pains and still manage to send chills down her spine when he does." --Charity

   7. Goal Oriented: "He should know what he wants and go for it. For example, my perfect man wanted me and got me!" --sephra

   8. Handsome: "Good looking is important, inside as well as out!" --jmcgrath

   9. In touch with his feminine side: "He will watch Ally McBeal with me and not make sarcastic remarks." --watsonmich

  10. Financially Stable: "He doesn't have to be rich, just financially responsible." --jmcgrath

  11. Fun: "He should be fun, exciting and somewhat spontaneous." --Mary

  12. Independent: "He should take care of himself, mentally, physically and spiritually" --mcgrath

  13. Cuddly: "He should hold you in bed at night when you are cold and not pull away even though he is sweating to death." --watsonmich

  14. Good to His Mother: "He shouldn't cling to his mother's apron strings like a momma's boy, but he loves and respects her very much. My mother always said you can tell a lot about a man by the way he treats his mother." --sephra

  15. Humble: "Must be willing to ask for directions!" --Ashlee Mann